Divorce 101 FAQs

How Do I Tell My Spouse I Want a Divorce?

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Written by Russell Alexander ria@russellalexander.com / (905) 655-6335
  1. Be clear about your intentions.  Do not send mixed messages.
  2. Use neutral language and do not blame.
  3. It is best to be prepared for an angry response.
  4. Be prepared to discuss temporary solutions so you have enough time to figure out everything on a final basis.
  5. It’s a lot to take in, so do not expect to figure everything out immediately.
  6. It can cause stress for everyone, so give time to your spouse if it would help in the long run.

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Russell Alexander

Russell Alexander is the founder of Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers and is the firm’s senior partner. At Russell Alexander, our focus is exclusively family law, offering pre-separation legal advice and assisting clients with family related issues, including: custody and access, separation agreements, child and spousal support, division of family property, paternity disputes, and enforcement of court orders. We have locations in Toronto, Markham, Whitby (Brooklin), Lindsay, and Peterborough.

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