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Dumped! But on Valentine’s Day??

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Written by Russell Alexander / (905) 655-6335

Dumped! But on Valentine’s Day??

For most people, Valentine’s Day is about hearts, flowers, and the love of a special someone.  But as was reported in a U.S. article recently for one New York woman, the annual day set aside for celebrating love is tinged by its association with a particularly hurtful event in her now-ended marriage.

It’s the day six years ago that her husband chose to blindside her with some news:  He wanted a divorce.  At the time, she didn’t know he was even remotely unhappy.

She relates that in prior (apparently happier) years, she would dress in something sexy for Valentine’s Day, and her husband would surprise her with a dozen red roses.  They would typically go out to dinner at a nice place, then share a bottle of wine and dessert afterwards.

But on that one fateful Valentine’s Day, she sadly received not the expected delivery of flowers, but rather the service of divorce papers.

What’s worse is that the woman, a 44-year-old mother of two, describes herself as “a sucker” for Valentine’s Day and the feel-good romance it celebrates.  Calling her husband’s move “heartless”, she pointed out that he knew it was an important day to her.

Fortunately, she’s since moved on to a new longtime boyfriend.  She still loves the annual holiday and all that it stands for, and calls herself a “total romantic”.

Apparently, according to the article, she is not alone in having been cruelly blindsided this way.  Divorce lawyers report that it’s not unheard-of for one unhappy spouse to deliberately choose a romantic holiday to serve divorce papers on the other.  For some vindictive partners, it might be Valentine’s Day; for others, they might choose an anniversary or an important birthday to make the most hurtful impact.

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Russell Alexander

Russell Alexander is the Founder & Senior Partner of Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers.