Marriage Contracts

Checklist for a Healthy Marriage

Written by Russell Alexander ria@russellalexander.com / (905) 655-6335

Let’s explore the essential aspects of maintaining a strong and healthy marriage. Whether you’re experiencing recurring conflicts or a decline in communication, we delve into the root causes and provide practical solutions.

Understanding the Signs

☐ Identify recurring conflicts and discuss their root causes.
☐ Notice if there’s a decline in communication and why.
☐ Acknowledge any feelings of indifference or avoidance.

Communication and Resolution

☐ Schedule regular, uninterrupted time to talk about your relationship.
☐ Practice active listening and empathy during discussions.
☐ Use “I” statements to express your feelings without blaming.

Rebuilding Intimacy

☐ Plan regular date nights and quality time together.
☐ Share appreciations daily to rebuild positivity.
☐ Explore new activities or hobbies together.

Managing Conflicts

☐ Agree on a method for handling disagreements (e.g., taking time to cool down).
☐ Learn and practice conflict resolution skills.
☐ Consider setting rules for fair and productive arguments.

Financial Harmony

☐ Create a joint budget and financial goals.
☐ Hold monthly finance meetings to discuss expenditures and savings.
☐ Be transparent about incomes, debts, and spending.

Professional Help

☐ Seek marriage counselling or therapy if issues persist.
☐ Consider attending a marriage workshop or retreat.
☐ Educate yourselves on healthy relationship techniques (books, courses).

Personal Well-being

☐ Ensure both partners have time for individual growth and hobbies.
☐ Discuss expectations and roles to avoid resentment.
☐ Support each other’s goals and dreams.

Re-evaluation and Adaptation

☐ Regularly check in on the state of your marriage.
☐ Be open to changing behaviours and patterns that aren’t working.
☐ Celebrate improvements and milestones achieved together.

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About the author

Russell Alexander

Russell Alexander is the Founder & Senior Partner of Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers.