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Good Books for Parents in Bad Custody Situations

Written by Russell Alexander / (905) 655-6335

Good Books for Parents in Bad Custody and Divorce Situations

Divorce is never easy on kids, and there are many good books to help parents guide them through practical and emotional difficulties that inevitably arise. These publications encourage parents – especially those with younger children – to provide age-appropriate information about the process, as well as emotional support throughout various transitions, all while remaining sensitive to the stages of resistance and acceptance that most children go through.

But while most of the books are more general in nature, three caught my eye recently because of their focus: namely those all-too-common divorce and separation scenarios that involve either a lack of co-operation or else deliberate undermining on the part of one parent toward the other.

They are:

  • Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex: A Hands-on, Practical Guide to Communicating with a Difficult Ex-Spouse by Julie A. Ross and Ross Corcoran (Aug. 2, 2011)
    As the name suggests, this publication provides strategies and specific communication techniques for dealing with an intransigent parent.


  • Divorce Casualties: Protecting Your Children From Parental Alienation by Douglas Darnall (Aug. 25, 1998)
    This book assists parents in recognizing even subtle attempts at parental alienation, and identifies ways to prevent or minimize the resulting damage to the child.


  • Mouthing and Brainwashing, by Richard Warshak (Jan. 11, 2010) The aim of this book is to teach separated and divorced parents to recognize the various types of criticism, and to identify attempts to manipulate a child. It also offers strategies for ensuring that loving connections between parents and the child are rebuilt and preserved.

Each of these publications is readily available through

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About the author

Russell Alexander

Russell Alexander is the founder of Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers and is the firm’s senior partner. At Russell Alexander, our focus is exclusively family law, offering pre-separation legal advice and assisting clients with family related issues, including: custody and access, separation agreements, child and spousal support, division of family property, paternity disputes, and enforcement of court orders. We have locations in Toronto, Markham, Whitby (Brooklin), Oshawa, Concord, Lindsay, and Peterborough.

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