Spousal Support & Alimony

Support Does Not End When Life Changes — or Even After Death

Written by Russell Alexander ria@russellalexander.com / (905) 655-6335

The long tail of support obligations Support is not a short-term issue. 

Cases like Carrubba-Gomes v. Gomes, Ontario (Director, Family Responsibility Office) v. Petersoo, and Estate of Bourque show that support obligations: 

  • persist through change 
  • require active management 
  • can extend beyond death 

1. Material change must be proven, not assumed

To vary support, the legal threshold is a “material change in circumstances.” 

This means: 

  • a significant change 
  • that was not reasonably anticipated 
  • that affects the support analysis 

In Carrubba-Gomes v. Gomes, the Ontario Divisional Court emphasized that the change must be real, not temporary or speculative 

2. You cannot self-adjust support

A common mistake is reducing payments after: 

  • job loss 
  • business downturn 
  • new family obligations 

Without a court order, the original obligation continues. 

Result: 

  • arrears accumulate 
  • enforcement continues 
  • credibility is damaged 

3. Timing is critical in variation motions

Courts assess: 

  • when the change occurred 
  • when the motion was brought 
  • what steps were taken in between 

Delay undermines credibility and limits retroactive relief. 

4. Support obligations can bind an estate

In Estate of Bourque, the court addressed ongoing obligations after death. 

Support-related claims may include: 

  • unpaid arrears 
  • ongoing dependent support 
  • claims under estate legislation 

Implications: Executors must account for support obligations. Beneficiaries may receive less than expected. 

5. Planning is essential

Where support obligations exist, proper planning may include: 

  • life insurance to secure payments 
  • structuring assets for liquidity 
  • reviewing beneficiary designations 
  • addressing obligations in estate documents 

Failure to plan creates: 

  • litigation risk 
  • delays in estate administration 
  • unexpected financial exposure 

6. Courts are focused on fairness over time

Support is assessed across multiple stages: 

  • during the relationship 
  • at separation 
  • post-separation 
  • post-death 

This long-view approach reflects a broader understanding of financial interdependence. 

Bottom line

Support obligations:

  • do not adjust themselves
  • do not disappear with time
  • and do not necessarily end with death 

They require active management at every stage. 

Series Conclusion

Across these cases, a consistent pattern emerges: 

  • Courts are enforcing support more aggressively 
  • Financial transparency is critical 
  • Delay is costly 
  • Structure and evidence drive outcomes 

For clients, the message is simple: 

  • Deal with support early 
  • deal with it properly 
  • and do not assume it will resolve itself 

For any further questions about support, contact us at Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers.

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About the author

Russell Alexander

Russell Alexander is the Founder & Senior Partner of Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers.