Inspired by CBC Radio’s “The Current,” July 2025
Most people are familiar with the concept of a wedding registry: couples planning a life together choose gifts—dishes, towels, appliances—and guests help them start their new chapter.
But what happens when the fairy tale ends?
A growing number of Canadians are flipping the script and embracing a new trend: divorce registries. These online wish lists help newly separated people rebuild their lives—emotionally and financially—with support from their community. From dishes and desks to mattresses and legal fees, the divorce registry is a practical, empowering response to the often-overlooked financial burden of starting over.
A Practical Solution to a Financially Painful Process
As CBC’s The Current reports, divorce is more than emotionally taxing—it can also be financially devastating. People may move into a new home with few or no furnishings. Legal bills add up quickly. And for many, rebuilding means replacing everything from toasters to towels that were left behind or divided in haste.
Enter the divorce registry.
Much like a baby or wedding registry, divorce registries allow friends and family to purchase meaningful and useful gifts that help someone regain stability. The intent isn’t pity—it’s solidarity and support. Rather than awkwardly asking what someone needs, loved ones can chip in with confidence, knowing their gift is both wanted and helpful.
Why This Matters in Ontario Family Law
In Ontario, the division of property during separation focuses on equalizing the value of assets—not necessarily splitting physical items down the middle. That means one spouse may end up with the house (and contents), while the other walks away with cash or debts—but no furniture.
We also see clients dealing with urgent financial needs during separation:
- Paying first and last month’s rent
- Covering moving expenses
- Replacing basic household essentials
- Buying laptops, beds, or desks for children now in two households
- Paying legal retainers and court filing fees
For those without a strong financial safety net, these costs can be overwhelming. A divorce registry helps reduce that burden in a dignified, organized way.
Breaking the Stigma
One of the most powerful parts of this trend is what it signals culturally: divorce no longer needs to be hidden or shameful. Just like weddings or new babies, it’s a major life transition. And as more people choose to separate with dignity and mutual respect, the registry becomes a symbol of resilience rather than loss.
How to Create or Share a Divorce Registry
Several online platforms now allow users to build divorce or “fresh start” registries, including:
- MyRegistry.com
- Amazon Wish Lists
- GoFundMe or similar crowdfunding tools for larger needs like legal fees or childcare
When combined with community support and legal guidance, these tools can make a real difference in the lives of separated spouses—especially during the early, disorienting days of starting over.
Final Thought from Our Team at Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers
Separation is never easy—but it can be a fresh start. Whether you’re moving out, staying put, or splitting time with the kids, you deserve to feel safe, supported, and seen. A divorce registry isn’t about celebrating the end of a marriage—it’s about investing in someone’s future.
If you’re considering separation in Ontario, we’re here to help you navigate the legal, financial, and emotional aspects of the journey ahead.
