Divorce 101

Should I Wait to Get Divorced Until After the Holidays?

Written by Russell Alexander ria@russellalexander.com / (905) 655-6335

The holiday season can bring both joy and stress—especially if you’re thinking about or going through a divorce. Many people ask whether it’s better to delay divorce proceedings until after the holidays to protect family dynamics or reduce emotional strain. This guide explores the pros and cons of waiting, how holidays affect children and court processes, and tips for managing this challenging time. 

Emotional Considerations Around Holiday Timing

Holidays often magnify feelings of loss and disruption. Some choose to postpone divorce filings to preserve holiday traditions or reduce immediate conflict, while others find that moving forward sooner helps them start healing. 

Impact of Holidays on Children and Family Dynamics

Holiday routines can be confusing for children during separation. Planning parenting schedules carefully and communicating clearly can help maintain stability and reduce anxiety for kids. 

Legal and Financial Implications of Timing

Divorce timing may affect issues like tax filings, benefit eligibility, and asset division dates. Courts also operate on reduced schedules during holidays, which may delay processing. 

Managing Stress During Holiday Seasons

Prioritizing self-care, setting boundaries, and seeking support from friends, family, or professionals can help ease holiday-related stress. 

Communication with Your Spouse Around Holidays

Open, respectful communication about expectations and plans can prevent misunderstandings and conflict during this sensitive period. 

Planning for Holiday Parenting Schedules

Establishing clear parenting time arrangements ahead of time reduces confusion and ensures everyone knows what to expect. 

Pros and Cons of Delaying Divorce Proceedings

Waiting can offer emotional breathing room but may prolong uncertainty. Moving forward can speed resolution but might increase stress during the holidays. 

How Holidays Affect Court Timelines and Availability

Court closures and limited scheduling mean filings and hearings may take longer over the holiday period. 

Support Resources Available During Holidays

Many community organizations and legal clinics offer extra support during holidays, recognizing the added pressures separation can bring. 

Tips for Self-Care and Celebration Regardless of Timing

Create new traditions, focus on what brings you joy, and give yourself permission to feel a full range of emotions. 

Special Note: RIA Toy Drive

At Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers, we understand how challenging the holidays can be. That’s why we proudly support the RIA Toy Drive—helping local children experience joy this season. We invite you to join us in giving back to the community during this special time. 

Closing

Deciding when to file for divorce during the holidays is deeply personal. By weighing emotional, legal, and practical factors, and by planning thoughtfully, you can navigate this period with care and confidence. 

Join our free webinar, Should I Wait to Get Divorced Until After the Holidays?, on December 9 at 5PM ET to explore timing considerations and get advice on managing this complex decision. 

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About the author

Russell Alexander

Russell Alexander is the Founder & Senior Partner of Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers.