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Some Canadian Media Outlets Are Shutting Out Justice Brownstone and Family Matters TV

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Some Canadian Media Outlets Are Shutting Out Justice Brownstone and Family Matters TV

Family Matters TV offered their episodes to all the national broadcasters in Canada for free last season and this season, and that all of them turned them down, most recently the CBC.   The Vancouver Sun recently picked up on this story.

Justice Brownstone and Family Matters TV provides valuable access to Justice system and much-needed common sense and information about the family court system.

The public has a craving for quality and accurate information about the family courts and divorce. This show needs to be promoted and distributed by the tv networks and all levels of government.

The public can still access Family Matters TV online  and the first air dates for the show are: CHCH May 4 @1:30pm (then each Sat @1:30pm afterwards for 16 weeks (different time slot for the Fall); CHEK May 4 @6:30pm and May 6th @9pm then each Sat and Mon for 16 weeks.

Hopefully other private and public broadcasters will have a change of heart and decide to air this important TV series.

Don’t Use Your Kids as Messengers

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Don’t Use Your Kids as Messengers

At one stage or another, almost every set of divorcing parents will experience situations of ill-will, conflict, heated arguments, (whether verbally or by email or text), and misunderstandings between themselves. Yet in most cases these same divorcing parents must nonetheless figure out a way to effectively communicate and deal with each other on an ongoing basis, since they will remain involved in the joint upbringing of their child.

In such scenarios, there are many ways to go wrong – but one of the most devastating and harmful mistakes from the standpoint of a child’s personal and emotional development, is to have the child serve as a “messenger” between the parents.

This involves asking or depending on the child to relay messages from one parent to the other, and can include things like:

• Requesting changes to access or custody schedules (“Tell your mother I can’t pick you up on Friday night this weekend, but I’ll come at 10 a.m. on Saturday”);

• Asking the other parent to take care of school or health-related obligations (“Ask your father if he made that appointment with your pediatrician, or whether I’m supposed to do it”);

• Soliciting information about general day-to-day matters (“Ask your mom if she knows where your blue ski jacket is”).

This is unhealthy for so many reasons. For one thing, it puts the child directly in the middle of any conflict between the parents, which is never a comfortable place for any child of any age to be. And all the more so where both parents have unresolved negative feelings toward each other, and end up inadvertently (or sometimes deliberately) conveying their anger or hurt through the child.

But even if the split is amicable, a child will naturally have intense feelings about the separation or divorce, and will feel conflicted about playing go-between.

Secondly, this places a great burden on the child, in terms of ensuring that the messages that are conveyed are accurate and timely. Yet as any parent knows, children are already notorious for not fully applying their listening skills and for forgetting things at the best of times, so to burden them with the responsibility of being an accurate messenger is unfair.

Bottom line: One of the duties of being an adult is to take responsibility for your own communications. More importantly, one of the responsibilities of being a parent is to do what’s best for your children. So keep the kids out of it.

At Russell Alexander, Family Lawyers our focus is exclusively family law, offering pre-separation legal advice and assisting clients with family related issues including: custody and access, separation agreements, child and spousal support, division of family property, paternity disputes, and enforcement of court orders. For more information, visit us at  Russell Alexander.com

So what are your thoughts and comments about using kids as messengers?

Ontario Government Launches New Website for Divorcing Couples

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Ontario Government Launches New Website for Divorcing Couples

People can now learn more about family law in Ontario at www.yourontariolaw.com, a website that offers parents free information and access to resources on the emotional, financial, legal and social considerations relating to child custody, access and child support. This site provides access to family law information available through the Ministry of the Attorney General, Department of Justice, Legal Aid Ontario, Community Legal Education Ontario and other organizations.

5 Divorce Questions: Interview of Attorney Brian King by Russell Alexander

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5 Divorce Questions: Interview of Attorney Brian King by Russell Alexander

This week we interview North Carolina attorney Brian King. Brian King is the senior partner at King Law Offices, and a North Carolina Certified Family Law Specialist. Brian has also served as a member of the North Carolina Child Support Council and has been elected as President of the Judicial District Bar. King Law Offices provides family law services in North and South Carolina.

Russell Alexander: “How often do people ask you for advice or guidance about separation and divorce and in which jurisdictions do you practice in?”

Brian King: “Russell, thank you for the opportunity to discuss our practice with you. As a family law specialist, I meet with clients daily on family law matters. We have offices in North and South Carolina, and have a thriving family law practice in five offices, serving from Mecklenburg County to Buncombe County in North Carolina, all the way to Greenville, South Carolina and all places in between.”

Russell Alexander: “What are the biggest concerns people raise with you about separation and divorce?”

Brian King: “Initially, clients are most concerned on the impact their separation will have on the children. Until the children’s schedule is resolved, it is hard for client’s to focus on the financial parts. Often, it is my position to protect client’s from taking this one concern and sacrificing the important remaining issues. I tend to direct my client’s to a budget for protecting themselves and their children from the often disastrous financial burdens of divorce. As a parent who has gone through divorce myself, I understand the fear and hurt of the process. I appreciate the emotional cycle that ending a marriage brings on client’s. We spend a lot of time up front on positioning for the steps facing my clients through the process.”

Russell Alexander: ” What advice do you have for people looking for lawyer?”

Brian King: “Selection of an attorney may be the most important decision for you to make after the choice of separation is made. Finding an attorney that will listen to your issue, and strive to understand your position is vital to rebuilding your new life. Once you find someone you can trust, you can start building a plan to put you and your family in position to move forward from a devastating situation.”

Russell Alexander: “What are the top 3 tips you have for people going through a divorce?”

Brian King: “First, understand that your mental and emotional health must be taken care of before you can take care of others. Until you are in a position to clearly make decisions, you cannot possibly be the person to resolve your children’s issues. Second, understand that your attorney needs your full communication concerning your case. This means turning over all documents, but it also means explaining what you want from the divorce process. Finally, picture what you want your life to look like in five years. A decision made for immediate revenge or out of anger may not fit with the goal of brining long-term success in your life–and your children’s.”

Russell Alexander: ”What do you envision for the future of family law?”

Brian King:  “Our firm is excited to be on the forefront of several innovative areas of family law. We have a strong mediation representation program, eliminating the need for litigation in many of our cases. I am very interested in the development of collaborative law in our area, where the parties collaborate together to solve the issues of divorce in a non-adversarial program designed to maximize benefit to children and parties at a fraction of the cost of traditional litigation. The future is centered on helping parties progress through the process of divorce in a manner that reduces stress, costs and emotional scaring.”

Wednesday’s Video Clip: What is a Retainer Agreement?


 

This video examines retainer agreements between client and lawyer. These agreements set out the scope of services provided by your lawyer and defines the contractual relationship between you and your lawyer.

Father Loses Work, Refuses to Sign Negotiated Agreement – Now What?

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Father Loses Work, Refuses to Sign Negotiated Agreement – Now What?

Couples who have separation agreements in place sometimes have to make changes to reflect new and unforeseen circumstances. But what happens if one of them refuses to sign?

A recent case demonstrates this scenario, and what a court will do once it is asked to step in.

The couple had separated in 2008 after six years of marriage. They signed Minutes of Settlement at the time, which covered most of the legal issues between them including child support. When the husband’s income subsequently increased, it became necessary to vary that agreement. The parties commenced negotiations, set out the framework of a new deal, and were very close to settling on a new support amount. Minutes of Settlement that had been drafted by the wife’s lawyer were sent to the husband for his review.

Then, things took a turn for the worse. The husband was a home renovation contractor, but he lost his major ongoing contract. A partnership in which he was involved also failed. As a result, he was unable to pay child support at the level that had been discussed during negotiations. In fact, he was unable to pay even at the former level.

He refused to sign the draft Minutes of Settlement that had reflected their discussions up to that point.

The wife went to court, asking for an Order that reflected the terms of the Minutes of Settlement that had been most recently drafted and sent to the father. She claimed that she and the husband had reached an agreement on substantially all the issues in dispute, and that a court Order should be granted on the same terms.

The husband, meanwhile, argued that the two of them had not fully come to terms – a minor issue about one of their children’s allergies was still not settled. He also claimed that his present employment situation rendered him unable to pay child support as had been tentatively agreed.

The court described its task as follows: “The court must initially make a finding as to whether the parties had reached an agreement and if it finds that they had done so, it must decode whether to exercise its discretion to enforce the agreement.”

By the law, if the parties had reached an agreement, then it could still be enforced even if it was not signed. But the court was entitled to use its discretion in deciding whether or not to enforce it – and there were certain factors that had to be considered, namely:

1. The agreement’s terms were not improvident or unconscionable.

2. There was no inequality of bargaining power.

3. Neither party acted in bad faith.

4. Neither of their lawyers acted without authority.

5. The terms were sufficiently clear as to avoid further litigation.

6. The terms dealt with most of the issues in dispute.

Here, there were factors going both ways: On the one hand, the agreement was fair, and had been negotiated freely and in person. On the other hand, and the husband had waited 11 months to advise the wife’s lawyer that the last draft he received was unacceptable to him.

Overall, the court found in this case that the husband and wife did not reach a final agreement; it added, however, that even if that conclusion was wrong, the court would nonetheless exercise its discretion not to enforce it.

Instead, the court amended the agreement to the negotiated agreement, with variation to reflect the change in employment and other circumstances that took place since the tentative agreement was reached. The level of child support owed by the husband, both past and going-forward, was adjusted accordingly.

Kalverda v. Kalverda, 2013 ONSC 1795 (CanLII)  http://canlii.ca/t/fwrts

At Russell Alexander, Family Lawyers our focus is exclusively family law, offering pre-separation legal advice and assisting clients with family related issues including: custody and access, separation agreements, child and spousal support, division of family property, paternity disputes, and enforcement of court orders. For more information, visit us at Russell Alexander.com

Mediation? Arbitration? Collaborative Divorce? What is the Difference?

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Mediation? Arbitration? Collaborative Divorce? What is the Difference?

Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) mechanisms are an efficient and increasingly popular way to resolve some Family Law disputes without having to resort to full-blown litigation. Since they all involve settlement of issues outside the realm of the traditional justice system, they tend to be more expedient and cost-effective.

While various ADR mechanisms have unique focuses and processes, many have similar features which can make them difficult to distinguish. Here are the three most common kinds of ADR:

Mediation

The mediation process features the involvement of a trained mediator who helps couples resolve their legal disputes through negotiation. Mediation tends to be an informal process: it is geared resolving issues or at least identifying common ground between the parties, and therefore narrowing down the issues that remain contentious. (And if mediation fails, then the parties are still free to proceed to traditional litigation). In Ontario it can be used in connection with only certain matters which include child support, access and custody, and equalization of net family property.

Arbitration

In contrast to mediation, which is voluntary, arbitration is more similar to a formal court hearing – minus all the formality. Each party is given the opportunity to tell his or her side of the story to an impartial arbitrator, who then makes a ruling that is binding on them both. Although it involves a less rigid procedure than going to court, there are still certain protocols in connection with witnesses’ testimony, and with submitting evidence and documents. Arbitration can cover only certain Family Law disputes, such as spousal or child support, custody and access to children, and division of property. It cannot cover divorce, marriage annulments, and certain administrative changes to official family status and declarations of parentage. Once an arbitration award has been issued, it can be enforced though a simplified procedure that is governed by legislation.

Collaborative Divorce

The underlying philosophy of the collaborative divorce process is that the parties mutually agree to completely avoid the court process, with the result being a faster, cheaper and more amicable divorce. To achieve this, the parties each sign a contract prior to the start of negotiations, agreeing to full disclosure of information and setting out the principles of the collaborative process. Their respective lawyers – who must be trained specifically in collaborative law – also agree not to press the matter to court. (And if ultimately it turns out that settlement cannot be reached, then new lawyers have to be hired). There is a focus throughout the process on co-operation, disclosure, honesty, and the best interests of children.

At Russell Alexander, Family Lawyers our focus is exclusively family law, offering pre-separation legal advice and assisting clients with family related issues including: custody and access, separation agreements, child and spousal support, division of family property, paternity disputes, and enforcement of court orders. For more information, visit us at Russell Alexander.com

Issues to Consider Before Meeting your Lawyer: Wednesday’s Video Clip

 

 

Issues to Consider Before Meeting your Lawyer: Wednesday’s Video Clip

In Ontario, a Will is a written document that sets out the person’s wishes about how his or her estate should be taken care of and distributed after death. In this video, Rita, a senior law clerk with Russell Alexander Family Lawyers, describes what a will is, some of the early issues to consider for preparing a will, and what steps you should take once you have your will in place.

To learn more visit us at Russell Alexander.com.

So what do your think?  Did you find this video helpful?  Please leave us your comment here.

How Do You Value the Used Rolex, the Rare Wine Collection, and the Mercedes-Benz?

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How Do You Value the Used Rolex, the Rare Wine Collection, and the Mercedes-Benz?

In this recent Ontario decision, the Family Court had to make valuation determinations on some interesting items that needed to be divided up as part of the equalization process involving a divorcing well-to-do couple. (It reminds me of that song by rap artist Notorious B.I.G. titled “Mo[re] Money, Mo[re] Problems”.)

The couple – both of whom were doctors – married in 1977 but separated just over 30 years later. For the purpose of equalization pending their divorce it came time to assess their matrimonial assets – which included about 1,000 bottles of wine agreed to be worth about $200,000, a property in Italy, plus several cars and joint accounts. But while the parties were able to come to terms on the values of most of their property, they still disagreed on a small number of items.

In particular the value of several items of jewellery were in dispute, including the wife’s Rolex watch, a Bulgari star pendant, a Peridot ring, and various gold and silver jewellery. The treatment of a Mercedes-Benz was also contentious: it had been replaced after a 2008 accident and the evidence was unclear on whether the husband got a loan or used joint funds to come up with the $106,000 replacement price.

The court tackled the valuation exercise by listening to the evidence of the parties – neither of whom had chosen to use the services of expert valuators or forensic accountants. And the evidence was confusing and inconsistent: For the Peridot ring for example – which the wife bought during a pre-separation shopping spree – she provided a receipt for $8,000, but the husband proved that it had covered several additional items as well, and that she had returned $3,000 worth of them. More importantly, there was evidence to show that the wife had actually given the ring to her mother just before the split. Yet she called no evidence from the mother to confirm the gift, which the court observed would have been a very simple task. It therefore included $5,000 in the wife’s Net Family Property.

The Rolex watch was also difficult to value: the husband claimed it was worth $25,000; the wife claimed it was only worth $5,000. Since the wife’s documentary evidence was the best it had available, the court accepted the wife’s valuation figure. It commented, however, that certain other evidence of hers was lacking, particularly in connection with proving the existence of certain pieces of jewellery. Having found that evidence inconclusive, it declined to give those items any monetary value at all.

Finally, the court turned to consideration of the Mercedes-Benz. After the car had been in an accident in 2008, the husband had received about $65,000 from the insurance company. To come up with the balance of the $106,000 purchase price, he withdrew money from the couple’s joint account, but claimed that he had repaid it all using money from a loan. The wife refuted this: she said the joint account was never repaid. To resolve the issue the court had to review in detail various bank transactions, cheques that had been written, and other documentation. It concluded that the allegedly repaid funds were simply not traceable, and that the husband’s claim to have arranged for a loan was “far from convincing.” As such, it found that the husband had taken $56,000 from the joint account, and that he was now required to reimburse the wife for half.

The court’s task was not an easy one. Indeed, in the course of its investigation the court commented – more than once – that since neither of the parties had chosen to use experts, it had been constrained to try to impose valuations on individual items using what it considered to be the best evidence available.

What’s the take-away lesson from this case? Maybe you don’t have a Rolex, it’s always a good idea to keep records and receipts that may help in any valuation process of your assets, should you and your spouse decide to divorce. And hiring an expert valuator is a good idea, too.

For the full text of the decision, see:

Golda v. Syty-Golda (2012), 2012 ONSC 6320  http://canlii.ca/t/ftxzd

At Russell Alexander, Family Lawyers our focus is exclusively family law, offering pre-separation legal advice and assisting clients with family related issues including: custody and access, separation agreements, child and spousal support, division of family property, paternity disputes, and enforcement of court orders. For more information visit us at Russell Alexander.com.

So what are your thoughts of property sharing and valuation?  Share them here.

Top 5 Tips for Dealing with the Family Responsibility Office

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Top 5 Tips for Dealing with the Family Responsibility Office

A while ago I wrote about the role of the provincial Family Responsibility Office (FRO) More About The Family Responsibility Office, Some Common Problems Addressed.  (For those who aren’t aware: In Ontario, all child support orders are automatically filed with the FRO, which operates under legislation giving it an arsenal of mechanisms by which to encourage and enforce timely payment of support on the part of the paying parent.)

If you are such a payor pursuant to a court-issued Support Order, here are five tips for dealing with the FRO:

1. Always keep the FRO updated on address changes.

Otherwise, you may miss out on receiving the various noticed that the FRO is required by law to give you. These may include a warning that the enforcement mechanisms that can be levied against you are about to be stepped up – for example a notice that your driver’s license is about to be suspended.

2. Keep the FRO apprised of your employment situation.

If you have lost your job, have been laid off work, or have had your income reduced due to disability or a reduction of overtime, then the FRO should be made aware. In such situations your next step may be to obtain a variation of the filed child support order that triggers the FRO’s involvement in the first place, which will in turn affect the FRO’s role and mandate in the enforcement process.

3. Don’t ignore anything you have received from the FRO.

Many of the processes involving the FRO allow for only a few days for you to respond; the FRO may quickly escalate the remedies available to assist with collection and you don’t want to be surprised by any of them. The FRO’s available avenues for encouraging your compliance and payment can include: suspending your driver’s license or passport, a garnishee of your wages (via a “Support Deduction Order” sent to your employer), filing writs or liens against your property, seizing your income tax refunds and HST rebates, seizing your bank accounts and – last but not least – imposing jail time of up to 180 days.

4. Document everything.

This includes not only your correspondence with the FRO, but also the paper trail of any support payments that you have made. Payments to the FRO can be made by way of internet banking or telephone banking and may be the easiest to document; payments by cheque or money order are more cumbersome to track. But regardless of the method, make sure to designate the FRO case number on any payment that you make.

5. Always make the mandated support payments if you can.

As mentioned, the FRO has a wide arsenal of options to deal with delays or non-payment, including jail time if necessary. Naturally, these shorter-term consequences should be avoided if at all possible. But there can be longer-term drawbacks as well: arrears in child support payments will show up negatively on your credit bureau report, which can affect you for years to come.

At Russell Alexander, Family Lawyers our focus is exclusively family law, offering pre-separation legal advice and assisting clients with family related issues including: custody and access, separation agreements, child and spousal support, division of family property, paternity disputes, and enforcement of court orders.

For more information, visit us at http://www.russellalexander.com/practice/family-responsibility-office-fro-and-default-hearings/

So what do you think?  Do you have any tips or comments for dealing with FRO?

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