Courtroom success in family law is not just about knowing the law—it’s about showing the court that you’re credible, respectful, and prepared. A recent feature in the ABA Journal gathered real advice from U.S. judges about what impresses them in court. These insights are equally relevant here in Ontario, especially for family law litigants and their counsel.
Here’s how to earn credibility with judges—and improve your chances of success.
8 Core Advocacy Strategies
- Open with a roadmap: Start with “May it please the court,” and outline your key arguments. This gives the judge a framework to follow.
- Master your brief: Know your written materials cold—your oral argument should be consistent with your submissions.
- Expect interruptions: Be ready to pause and answer questions directly and respectfully.
- Memorize your opening: Know the first 30–45 seconds by heart. First impressions matter.
- Anticipate tough questions: Think about what the judge will challenge you on—and prepare clear, calm responses.
- Listen actively: Never interrupt the judge. Let them finish speaking and then answer carefully.
- Concede weak points: If the court identifies a valid flaw, acknowledge it and shift to your stronger ground.
- Demonstrate civility: Professionalism and cooperation go a long way in earning the judge’s trust.
12 Tips Directly from the Judiciary
- Understand courtroom culture: Judges differ. Know their preferences, pet peeves, and expectations.
- Dress and speak respectfully: Court is formal. Appearances and tone matter.
- Be on time: Punctuality signals respect—for the judge, the process, and opposing counsel.
- Stick to the point: Avoid tangents and overexplaining. Judges are busy—clarity is key.
- Focus on relevant facts and law: Don’t drown the court in detail. Stay laser-focused on what matters.
- Use visuals carefully: Chronologies and timelines can help—but don’t rely on gimmicks.
- Cite your strongest legal authority first: Lead with binding precedents and legislation.
- Know the procedural posture: Be clear on where the case stands and why you’re there.
- Handle exhibits professionally: Label and reference them clearly. Keep the record clean.
- Speak slowly and confidently: Nervous speed undermines clarity.
- Be courteous to opposing counsel: Professionalism reflects well on you and your case.
- End with precision: Finish by clearly stating the order you are asking the court to make.
Why This Matters
Whether it’s a case conference, motion, or trial, how you present can influence outcomes. Family court judges value lawyers and litigants who are prepared, respectful, and realistic. These 20 tips are a powerful checklist for anyone seeking to “please the court” in a meaningful, professional way.
At Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers, we help clients get ready for court—not just legally, but strategically. We believe in clarity, credibility, and preparation as the pillars of strong advocacy.
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